House, Pt 2: Rally Point

House, Pt 2: Rally Point
October 1, 2010 5:30 AM -0500
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Everyone wants to have the perfect family. The problem is, it's a lot harder than it looks. Find out what the Bible says are the keys to having real life at home.

Thesis: The keys to having a great family life are to prioritize the love of God and understanding, implementation, and communication of His commandments.

Objective: Call believers to experience a fulfilling family life by make God and His commandments the center of their families.

  1. Dr. Stephen R. Covey
    • one of Time Magazine's 25 most influential Americans
    • Author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
    • sold >15 million copies
    • named by People as the #1 most influential business book of the 20th century
    • Four titles selling >1 million copies each
    • In all, more than 20 million books sold.
    • Latest book The 8th Habit, already nearly 400K
    • Internationally respected – and renowned – expert on leadership
    • Board of directors for the Points of Light Foundations, which pursues Pres George HW Bush's inaugural vision of a thousand points of light by encouraging and empowering a spirit of service
    • Co-founder, vice chairman of FranklinCovey, leading global professional services firm, offices in 123 countries
    • International Entrepreneur of the Year Award
    • MBA from Harvard, doctorate from Brigham Young University, 8 honorary doctorate degrees
    • International Man of Peace Award
    • Father of 9
    • Grandfather of 44
    • National Fatherhood Award
    • One of his most popular books is 7 Habits of Highly Effective Parenting
    • “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”
    • We must keep our priorities straight (4-6).
      1. We must know what's important (“Hear, O Israel” (4); Moses called on Israel to listen up because what he was about to say would be a cornerstone of who they were and what they were to do. This phrase began the Jewish Shema, from the word rendered “Hear,” which became a foundational statement of their basic faith and was to be repeated at least twice daily in the morning and at night. It was important! And if we're going to have a successful personal and family life, we absolutely must be able to figure out what is the most important thing.).
      2. There is only one God (“The Lord our God, the Lord is one” (4); Even though the word translated here as God is Elohim, which is plural to indicate transcendence and foreshadow the Trinity, there is only one God. We can't worship God and something else. The central and most important pillar of our family must be God.).
      3. Our God is one (“The Lord our God, the Lord is one” (4); As Christians, we believe that God is Triune. It means that there are Three persons – Father, Son, and Holy Ghost – who are perfectly united. Our families are designed to be microcosms of that relationship. Our families must be united.).
      4. We must love God (“Love the Lord your God with...” (5); It's not enough to make God the most important thing in our families. We must make that relationship about love. QUOTE: “The warmer our affection to him the greater will be our veneration for him; the child that honours his parents no doubt loves them.” “We must love God (1) With a sincere love; not in word and tongue only, saying we love him when our hearts are not with him, but inwardly, and in truth, solacing ourselves in him; (2) with a strong love; the heart must be carried out towards him with great ardour and fervency of affection; (3) with a superlative love; we must love God above any creature whatsoever, and love nothing besides him but what we love for him and in subordination to him; (4) with an intelligent love; To love him with all the heart, and with all the understanding, we must know him, and therefore love him as those that see good cause to love him; (5) with an entire love; he is one, and therefore our hearts must be united in this love, and the whole stream of our affections must run towards him” (Matthew Henry).).
    • We must keep our conversation straight (6-9).
      1. Definition: the use of speech for informal exchange of views or ideas or information etc.; communication between multiple people; interaction (Google)
      2. We must meditate on God's commandments (6; If we truly love the Lord, then we will recognize that everything that He wants is best, and we'll want what He wants. Our desires, hopes, and dreams, then, will be dominated by His commands. And the only way that can happen is if we meditate upon them. QUOTE: Meditation “immediately follows upon the law of loving God with all your heart; for those that do so will lay up his word in their hearts both as an evidence and effect of that love and as a means to preserve and increase it. He that loves God loves his Bible” (Matthew Henry).).
      3. We must teach future generations (“Impress them on your children” (7); Our faith cannot be merely private. We must work to communicate God's commandments to our children and grandchildren as well.).
      4. We must talk about Scripture (“Talk about them...” (7); It's not enough to just impress them upon kids; we must talk about them amongst ourselves. QUOTE: “So far is it from being reckoned a diminution to the honour of sacred things to make them subject of our familiar discourse that they are recommended to us to be talked of; for the more conversant we are with them the more we shall admire them and be affected with them, and may thereby be instrumental to communicate divine light and heat” (Matthew Henry). Talking about Scriptures helps us to know them ourselves, but it also gives us a chance to share understanding with one another.).
      5. We must read Scriptures daily (8; It's not enough to just talk about Scripture; we must be reading the Bible daily. ILLUSTRATION: Ancient Jews did not have Bibles like we do, so they would write important passages from Deut 6 and Ex 13 on slips of parchment, bind them in leather boxes called phylacteries, and lash them to their foreheads and left arms. NOTE: In the NT, Jesus criticized the Pharisees for their phylacteries not because they wore them, but because they tried to make them bigger and more showy than anyone else's.).
      6. We must share Scripture regularly (9; The Jews would also place Scripture verses in metal boxes on their doorframes and inscribe them on their gateposts so that everyone would see them as they came or went from their homes. We must determine ways that we can share Scripture with others without beating them over the head with it.).
    • Conclusion: In his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective People, Dr. Stephen Covey identifies 7 habits that are consistent among the most impactful people in the world. In his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective Families, he takes those habits and applies them to family life. The third habit on his list – Put First Things First – is what this message is all about. Covey describes it like this: “To live a more balanced existence, you have to recognize that not doing everything that comes along is okay. There's no need to overextend yourself. All it takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when necessary and then focus on your highest priorities.” He continues, “Habit 1 says, "You're in charge. You're the creator." Being proactive is about choice. Habit 2 is the first, or mental, creation. Beginning with the End in Mind is about vision. Habit 3... is where Habits 1 and 2 come together. It happens day in and day out, moment-by-moment. It deals with many of the questions addressed in the field of time management. But that's not all it's about. Habit 3 is about life management as well--your purpose, values, roles, and priorities. What are "first things?" First things are those things you, personally, find of most worth. If you put first things first, you are organizing and managing time and events according to the personal priorities you established in Habit 2.” As Christians, we must choose what our families will look like. And our vision for our families must be aligned with God's vision: a partnership which brings absolute fulfillment to both husband and wife, drawing each of them closer in love to each other and God, and to raise up future generations of men and women who will experience the same. And if these things are going to happen, then we must make God our personal and family priority, and we must make Him the centerpiece of all our conversation.

Ryrie

  • (4) “Here begins the celebrated Shema (from the first word, Hear), which became Judaism's basic confession of faith. According to rabbinic tradition, the Shema originally consisted only of verse 4 but was later expanded to include verses 5-9; 11:13-21; and Num 15:37-41. According to rabbinic law, it was to be recited morning and night. Verse 4 is subject to various translations, though the statement is likely stressing the uniqueness of Yahweh and should be translated, 'The Lord is our God, the Lord alone.' A secondary emphasis, His indivisibility, is apparent in most English translations. The Lord's uniqueness precludes the worship of any other and demands a total love commitment. This confession does not preclude the later revelation of the Trinity, for the word God (Elohim) is a plural word, and the word one is also used of the union of Adam and Eve (Gen 2:24) to describe two persons in one flesh.”

  • (5) “Jesus Christ called this the first and great commandment and added to it the phrase 'with all your mind' (Mark 12:30).”

  • (8) Based on this, as well as Ex 13:9 and Deut 11:18, “some Jews still wear phylacteries (little leather pouches containing short sections of the law, bound on the forehead and on the left arm above the elbow).”

  • (8) “The Jews practiced this commandment later by wearing phylacteries.”

  • (9) “Later the Jews placed a copy of the Shema in a small metal box or skin bag and placed it on the door. It is called a 'mezuzah' (=door frames).”

Henry

  • “That the God whom we serve is Jehovah, a Being infinitely and eternally perfect, self-existent, and self-sufficient.

  • “That he is the one only living and true God; he only is God, and he is but one.”

  • “The firm belief of this self-evident truth [that there is one God] would effectually arm them against all idolatry, which was introduced by that fundamental error, that there are gods many.”

  • “Happy they that have this one Lord for their God; for they have but one master to please, but one benefactor to seek to. It is better to have one fountain that a thousand cisterns, one all-sufficient God than a thousand insufficient ones.”

  • “The warmer our affection to him the greater will be our veneration for him; the child that honours his parents no doubt loves them.”

  • “Did ever any prince make a law that his subjects should love him? Yet such is the condescension of the divine grace that this is made the first and great commandment of God's law, that we love him, and that we perform all other parts of our duty to him from a principle of love.”

  • “We must highly esteem him, be well pleased that there is such a Being, well pleased in all his attributes, and relations to us: our desire must be towards him, our delight in him, our dependence upon him, and to him we must be entirely devoted. It must be a constant pleasure to us to think of him, hear from him, speak to him, and serve him.”

  • We must love God...

    • With a sincere love; not in word and tongue only, saying we love him when our hearts are not with him, but inwardly, and in truth, solacing ourselves in him.

    • With a strong love; the heart must be carried out towards him with great ardour and fervency of affection.

    • “With a superlative love; we must love God above any creature whatsoever, and love nothing besides him but what we love for him and in subordination to him.”

    • With an intelligent love; for so it is explained, Mark xii. 33. To love him with all the heart, and with all the understanding, we must know him, and therefore love him as those that see good cause to love him.”

    • “With an entire love; he is one, and therefore our hearts must be united in this love, and the whole stream of our affections must run towards him.”

  • The following means are prescribed for maintaining religion in our hearts and houses.

    • Meditation: “Though the words alone without the things will do us no good, yet we are in danger of losing the things if we neglect the words, by which ordinarily divine light and power are conveyed to the heart. God's words must be laid up on our heart, that our thoughts may be daily conversant with them and employed about them, and thereby the whole soul may be brought to abide and act under the influence and impression of them.”

    • Teach children: “Those that love the Lord God themselves should do what they can to engage the affections of their children to him, and so to preserve the entail of religion in their families from being cut off.”

    • Talking about them: “So far is it from being reckoned a diminution to the honour of sacred things to make them subject of our familiar discourse that they are recommended to us to be talked of; for the more conversant we are with them the more we shall admire them and be affected with them, and may thereby be instrumental to communicate divine light and heat.”

    • Frequent reading: “It is probable that at that time there were few written copies of the whole law, only at the feasts of tabernacles the people had it read to them; and therefore God appointed them, at least for the present, to write some select sentences of the law, that were most weighty and comprehensive, upon their walls, or in scrolls of parchment to be worn about their wrists; and some think that hence the phylacteries so much used among the Jews took rise.”

  • Meditation “immediately follows upon the law of loving God with all your heart; for those that do so will lay up his word in their hearts both as an evidence and effect of that love and as a means to preserve and increase it. He that loves God loves his Bible.”

  • The process of teaching children included “frequently repeat these things to them, try all ways of instilling them into their minds, and making them pierce into their hearts; as, in whetting a knife, it is turned first on this side, then on that.”

  • “Bishop Patrick well observes here that Moses thought his law so very plain and easy that every father might be able to instruct his sons in it and every mother her daughters. Thus that good thing which is committed to us we must carefully transmit to those that come after us, that it may be perpetuated.”

  • “It was prudently and piously provided by the first reformers of the English church that then, when Bibles were scarce, some select portions of scripture should be written on the walls and pillars of the churches, which the people might make familiar to them, in conformity to this direction, which seems to have been binding in the letter of it to the Jews as it is to us in the intent of it, which is that we should endeavour by all means possible to make the word of God familiar to us, that we may have it ready to us upon all occasions, for our restraint from sin and our direction and excitement to our duty.”

  • As part of writing commandments on our doorframes and gateposts, “it is also intimated that we must never be ashamed to own our religion, nor to own ourselves under the check and government of it. Let it be written on our gates, and let every one that goes by our door read it, that we believe Jehovah to be God alone, and believe ourselves bound to love him with all our hearts.

Reflecting God
  • (4-9) “Known as the Shema, Hebrew for 'Hear.' It has become the Jewish confession of faith, recited daily by the pious.”

  • (4) “the Lord is one” is “a divinely revealed insight, especially important in view of the multiplicity of Baals and other gods of Canaan and elsewhere.”

  • (5) “Love for God and neighbor is built on the love that the Lord has for his people. Such love is to be total, involving one's whole being.”

  • (5) “Obedience flows out of love and not just reverence.”

  • (6) Having God's commandments upon your hearts would be “a feature that would especially characterize the 'new covenant.'”

  • (8-9) “Many Jews take these verses literally and tie phylacteries to their foreheads and left arms. They also attach mezuzot (small wooden or metal containers in which passages of Scripture are placed) to the doorframes of their houses. But a figurative interpretation is supported by 11:18-20; Ex 13:9, 16.



  • Ryrie, Charles C. Ryrie Study Bible Expanded Edition. Chicago: Moody Press, 1994.
  • Henry, Matthew. Commentary on the Whole Bible.http://www.ccel.org/ccel/henry/mhc6.Jam.iv.html
  • Barker, Kenneth, ed. Reflecting God Study Bible. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 2000.
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